Jun. 16, 2017

What do you mean, you can’t change who you are?

Just some thoughts that I have been pondering over for a while. Warning this post may be a bit politically incorrect. Please don’t find the following offensive because I, in no way mean to offend anyone.

                I am having such a hard time understanding the phrase “I can’t change the way I am”. First of all, the way you are isn’t who you are. Our ancestors fought for so many human rights, for freedoms that we take so lightly today. “We” still are fighting for so many rights and freedoms and yet the one freedom we have always had is the right to choose who we are, and we deny it?

 Every day we wake up and make the choice to be who we are and do what we do. I choose to be a mom, I choose to be a wife, I choose to be blonde, I choose to be me. If at any time a wanted to be something else or believe something different then I get to change. When I was born, my family didn’t have much money, we could have been considered poor. Does this mean that because I was born this way then I can’t change? I do not and will not choose to be poor. I might someday choose to be a beach loving woman who loves the waves, sleeps in some box and eats peoples’ leftovers, but if I am happy then that is not what I am destined to be. I will CHOOSE to live that sort of life. If I feel that something isn’t right with me or the way that I was born or taught, then I will choose to change it.

Why am I hearing so often that people are born a certain way so they can’t change how they were born? Do you want to change it? Are you being forced to stay a specific way? This is now affecting our youth. They feel guilty wanting to be who they feel they need to be because “we” are constantly either defending our choices or telling the world that “we” can’t change who we are.

WAKE UP WORLD! Every day is a choice! Everything you do is a choice! YOU get to choose your beliefs! YOU get to choose change or YOU get to choose to stay the same. You get to choose if you are going to be proud of your choices. You get to choose if you are going to make excuses, or blame “the way you are” or “the way you were born” on fate/God.